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> where you can expect a modicum, possibly even a seeming profusion, of welcome. This is their hook.

Do you think that, possibly, they're really just happy to see you?





Sure, the way cult members are happy to greet new recruits. It's very insincere. If you have a real issue and you want to talk to someone - you are very likely to hear something like: "Well, pray to Jesus dear, only he can help you." In other words, if you actually need any support - go home and pray about it - don't expect real connection with people. The only connection comes through the imaginary friends they encourage you to divert all your attention and problems to...

Also, you have to accept the brainworms to be accepted into the church community. You gotta join the Borg. You can't have a different opinion or be an atheist. Or you have to hide it well and be comfortable with doing that.

It's a cult - a very old one, 20 centuries old. This longevity gives it a feeling of validity or that it's the 'only truth'. But it's really just collective sunk cost fallacy. It's the cultural bandaid that we apply to all problems because no one dares think up a new one. Rip off that bandaid and all kinds of problems it was patching emerge. That's why we dare not speak of parting ways with it.


It's called "Love Bombing" and it's almost always a precursor to abuse and/or exploitation.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing


Love Bombing can be a real thing. Being kind and welcoming to others is not it.

We don't need to pathologize completely normal, and healthy, behaviours.




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