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When my wife and I took a birth class in Boston, the ice breaker was to go around and say who you were and how much time you had off once the baby came (ostensibly so the instructor could tailor her advice).

After a long string of answers like "two weeks.. three weeks.. six weeks.. four weeks", the international parents in the group felt compelled to begin their introductions with an apology for numbers like six months, one year, two years...

I've never been able to understand how a parent could advocate against European-style healthcare goals (implementation details left as an exercise for technocrats).



> I've never been able to understand how a parent could advocate against European-style healthcare goals

I'm pretty sure parental leave is not mentioned in the US Constitution nor in the founding documents of most countries.

If we don't have it today, it's not because people advocated against it and removed it, it's because we simply haven't had enough push to advocate for it and add it.

Large countries have a ton of inertia. Diverse, thinly populated countries even more so. When people are far apart, they care much more about local politics and their neighbors than they do centralized government. Making change happen at that scale is very very hard.

People living in European countries enjoy criticizing the US on stuff like this, but they fail to realize how much bigger and more spread out we are than they are. The US is more than twice as large as the entire EU. Our density is less than a third of the EU's.

Another comment here mentions Denmark. If Denmark was a US state, it would be 36th in size, smaller than more than half of all US states. In population, it has fewer than 20 other states. The metropolitan area of the city I live in (Seattle) alone has almost half the population of the entire country of Denmark. LA and surrounding environments contain more than two Denmarks worth of people.

Consider if every US state were to independently enter the EU. In that case, of the top 40 largest members by area, only 9 would still be in Europe.

The US is behind in many ways, but this is not because we are backwater full of regressive idiots. We are a very large country without the density and homogeneity to benefit from good economies of scale. It's a lot easier to reach consensus and move a government forward when you have fewer people and they can more easily relate to each other.

If you are unable to understand why we might not have attained the same healthcare goals as your country, consider that your inability to understand people whose situation is different from yours is the exact psychological problem that slows us down.


I'm not sure I gather the defense you're making for the US's position. You're arguing that since the US populous is so spread out they have a hard time getting on the same page to advocate for positive change in health policies?

What part of population density or land mass size makes for this excuse where there's examples worldwide of both ends of either measure who've implemented paid leave by law:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave#Variation_in_in...

Countries larger and smaller than the USA have better policy. Countries with greater and lesser population densities. Diversity of people might matter but I fail to see a demographic within the US that is outright against increased parental benefits of new parents that doesn't exist within every country that has overcome the problem.


The parent comment by munificent is just making the lazy go-to excuse for US policies that it's so big / special / whatever that everything has to be different there.

Notice how these lazy comparisons never make any specific comparisons to other countries that would trivially refute their claims, such as Russia having 4x less population density than the US, but still somehow managing to have a federally mandated parental leave.

If it were true that it's just so hard for people far removed from one another geographically to relate to each other wouldn't it follow that the situation in Russia would be 4x worse than the US?


Well, I would suspect that the US is much more culturally diverse than Russia. Something like a quarter of all US residents are foreign born or have a foreign born parent; that's reflected in cities like NYC. I am doubtful the numbers are similar for Russia, which is very large and does have some ethnic and cultural diversity, but has been dealing with the same groups for much longer and probably in more of an authoritarian way.

Not a defense of America; I do think the difference is more complicated than just the size.


[Insert default arguments of why America is special]

1.) big and sparse. oh wait..

2.) culturally diverse. oh wait.. [1][2][3][4]

I only have one explanation for social service scarcity in the US: It seems to be dominated by a culture where you'd rather have large parts of the population suffer rather than having anyone chip in for the bill of groups of people (s)he doesn't identify with. It's the idea of self responsibility pushed to an unhealthy extreme. At the same time when talking to people in the US personally (almost) everyone seems to be helpful and nice, much more so than in most European countries actually. That dichotomy is something I'm really struggling with, i.e. I fail to find a good explanation.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Russia#Ethnic_...

[2] http://www.china-briefing.com/news/2014/11/11/maternity-leav...

[3] https://www.angloinfo.com/brazil/how-to/page/brazil-healthca...

[4] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race_and_ethnicity_in_Brazil#E...


Keeping to the comparison with Russia, I think the data bears out my point.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demography_of_the_United_State...

That's a very different story than the Russia link you provided, which, as I suspected, says that the country is mostly a) ethnically Russian and b) the rest are minorities the Russians have been dealing with for most of their history. I've even seen suggestions that the "White" category is perhaps too coarse, with observable cultural and political differences between whites of English descent and whites of German descent.

There's another pertinent datapoint, which is that Russia has a very low TFR and is experiencing a population decline and is pursuing policies to reverse that, as it is seen as a major problem. The US, on the other hand, continues to grow, largely because of immigration; policies to increase the number of children are superfluous.

That said, as I mentioned earlier, I think that's just a factor. Every country is special and has to be considered on its own terms. Is geographic size a factor? Probably. Is population size a factor? Probably. Is population diversity a factor? Probably. Is some remnant of the mythological self-reliance of American frontierism a factor? Probably. Is the rivalry with the USSR a factor? Probably.

Moreover, while I personally would like at a minimum a year of paid parental leave, the idea that parental leave represents Forward Progress and any country that doesn't have it is backward and deserves to be shamed is rather disturbing. Instead of trying to shame America to conform to somebody elses' norms, we should probably work instead on convincing them that it's a worthwhile and workable idea, and that the potential tradeoffs are worth making.


Does it follow then that America might have an easier time if they were to encourage more cultural and racial homogeneity?


The demographic you are failing to take into account is private corporations, who have a constitutionally protected right to freedom of speech, and whose board members believe they have an overriding ethical obligation to protect and increase shareholder value.


The government, led by the people, has an ethical obligation to extend rights to parents...to include longer maternity and paternity leave for all gendered categories of parents.


The us government is led by the rich.


>People living in European countries enjoy criticizing the US on stuff like this, but they fail to realize how much bigger and more spread out we are than they are. The US is more than twice as large as the entire EU. Our density is less than a third of the EU's.

The population density may be an excuse for the poor passenger rail network, but it doesn't make sense regarding parental leave.

>The US is behind in many ways, but this is not because we are backwater full of regressive idiots. We are a very large country without the density and homogeneity to benefit from good economies of scale. It's a lot easier to reach consensus and move a government forward when you have fewer people and they can more easily relate to each other.

The EU has more people and still managed to legislate maternity, paternity, and parental leaves. They managed to do this while speaking 24 languages in Parliament.


European countries and Canada have these programs because we have had active left wing and socialist movements that got into the streets to demand it, formed political parties, and even sometimes won elections.

The fact that the Democrats have had as much political power as they have in the United States and _not_ yielded these results should tell you just how useful they are to 'progressives' as a force for 'progressive' change.


> If we don't have it today, it's not because people advocated against it

Except people do advocate against it. constantly.

> but this is not because we are backwater full of regressive idiots

Donald Trump is a presidential candidate.

Canada has less density and doesn't have nearly the constant fighting about seemingly every social issue.


Lots of people agreeing to something is hard I guess. I don't which country has the closest to US population and better health benefit. But in terms of economies of scale at least the parental leave things doesn't require as much economies of scale.

But another thing the sparse argument fail to account the reverse side. US essentially has a big chunk of the resource of a continent for a very little amount of benefit. That has to count for something. It also benefits from some of the worlds most people moving there so I don't think having resource to provide better health care is the issue. From the comments that I read I think two ideas are prevalent that stops this.

- I'm healthy so why should I pay for another's healthcare - I can better afford it so I should receive higher quality care

Now some definitely have ideological issue but I think at the grassroot level this is a big part of the cause.


Ah, that universal excuse: we are to big and too diverse. Drop the "U" then, maybe?


That's actually the intention. The federal government was originally intended only to provide basic functions like national defense and border control. Domestic policy would've been practically irrelevant.

The United States is a collection of fifty sovereign states that pool resources to pay for things that are beneficial to the geographic neighborhood, like a giant HOA. It's not fair to compare the universal policies in a conglomeration of sovereign states to the policies in independent jurisdictions; that is, the comparison should be California<->Sweden, not U.S.<->Sweden.

Under that framework, all labor law should be state-level. This promotes competition among jurisdictions for population, which means people have the option to move somewhere nearby if a jurisdiction passes a really undesirable law. More local jurisdictions also makes representative government a lot more feasible. A rep with 25k constituents is going to be much more available to the average citizen in their district than a rep with 25m constituents.

Some areas in the U.S. do have mandatory sick and parental leave, and some don't, and that's how the respective peoples like it. Time will tell which approach is superior. We think that kind of competition is good.


I want to see the folks that don't want sick leave or that like being forced back to work weeks after delivery. Or are you saying there are areas of the US favored by those entertaining BDSM in all facets of their life? Or maybe where slavery and indentured servitude hasn't quite been phased out?


Uh, yeah, most people do go back to work "weeks after delivery" here if they intend to remain employed. My wife had a son in June and I got 5 days of paternity leave, after which I was back to work. Most women take more time off than that, but after a few weeks many of them are back in the workforce. Gotta get paid, don't get paid if you don't work. So, mission accomplished?

>Or maybe where slavery and indentured servitude hasn't quite been phased out?

The question of whether the Feds had authority to universally outlaw slavery presented a constitutional crisis that culminated in the Civil War, and there are still people who believe that such prohibitions are out of the scope of the federal government's powers (not that they believe slavery should still be legal, but they believe that per the 10th Amendment, the right to make that decision was reserved to the states). It's certainly not a simple matter.


> I want to see the folks that don't want sick leave or that like being forced back to work weeks after delivery.

These folk are also know as the "job creators". Why should they pay you for not working? Your newborn doesn't do anything for their bottom line. After all, it is their fiduciary duty to maximize shareholder value by screwing over employees, customers, suppliers or anyone else who is not a shareholder. They are already not fans of raising the minimum wage, why should they be pro-labor in any other area?


That's why in every other country that has paid parental leave, the leave is covered by society and not your employer. Again a public good like raising the next generation should be paid for by the public.


>That's why in every other country that has paid parental leave, the leave is covered by society and not your employer.

That's not totally true. Many countries require the employer to pay at least some of the leave.

>Again a public good like raising the next generation should be paid for by the public.

This is absolutely not the American perspective. Americans don't think of their children as "public goods", and the expectation is that everyone will support themselves and their offspring, and that individual charity will be accommodated by voluntary private activity as necessary. This isn't based on selfishness, but a belief that if you don't want your children to be wards of the state, they shouldn't be dependent on it for their sustenance.

The European system is looked upon with suspicion out here, to say the least. America is not a big government place.


Yeah, that's fundamentally the difference between European/Canadian and American mindsets - one trusts the government while the other holds it in suspicion. Of course, that also reflects in the vast income disparities between the two groups of societies. I'd much rather be in the bottom 80% in Canada or Europe than in America.


> covered by society

why is this preferred? make everyone pay for it? make everyone who doesnt have kids poorer? pass the money through the government that takes a cut of it to administer the program leaving less money on the other side. i dont see the good in any of it


Nevermind that the argument you seem to be making is that the US is so diverse that the population at large would not agree to having a choice of a paid leave for a year or so. You really think men and women wouldn't want that choice of potentially staying at home for a longer period while retaining pay and their position? Wouldn't want the government to have their back that way? O rly?


Russia, a country that's only a 1/6th of the Earth's surface, and likely even more sparsely populated than the US, has a 3 year maternity leave.

Guess what happens if you give birth again in those 3 years? That's right...3 more years.


>It's a lot easier to reach consensus and move a government forward when you have fewer people and they can more easily relate to each other.

Didn't prevent the Democrats from "Obamacare".


Because you'd have to advocate paying even more taxes, something Americans just do not want. Universal anything doesn't come out of thin air.


> Because you'd have to advocate paying even more taxes, something Americans just do not want

That's not how parental leave works. The employer is obligated (by law) to continue paying salaries for the stipulated period while the parent is on leave. The government doesn't shoulder the cost.


That's not true. There is no state or federal government that mandates paid family leave that has to be covered by the employer. The family leave act only mandates up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave.


I was addressing incorrect assumption that longer parental leave would require the raising of taxes. I should have also been clearer that I wasn't talking about the US government(s) but for Europe and the rest of the world: Nowhere (that I know of) is the parental salary/income paid directly via taxes or by the government. Instead, the laws state that your employer should continue paying you a certain percentage of your salary while you are on maternal/paternal leave. This percentage is usually 100% , some countries have a time-based fall-off (amount decreases to X% after N weeks)


I never understood why maternity + paternity leave isn't longer. Current corporate policy in America is insane for working parents. Especially when the US DoD gives 12 weeks maternity leave (http://www.defense.gov/News/Article/Article/645958/carter-an...). As a dad who had to take care of his little one for the first 60 days of his life, I can say that paternity leave should be there as well for awhile. I found myself (as a DoD employee) in the precarious situation of working when my son was asleep, and early morning/late at night. Thankfully I was the boss so I could do that (and you know, anybody that worked for me got the same privilege). It's not easy. Moms are in no shape to go back after 1/2/3 weeks, heck not even 1 month. Moms need time to heal + time with the baby. Dads can help out with that process a lot! Unfortunately, most in the US view dads as not really essential to the parenting process. This is reflected in the DoD paternity leave policy which only grants 14 days. I think valuing the fathers input would likely enhance the stability of families (see Nordic countries quest for equal gender rights (https://www.nav.no/en/Home/Benefits+and+services/Relatert+in...). I wonder how Nvidia handles parents who don't fall into the "mother"/"father" categories. That's always a huge hole in some of these plans.


Compulsion is not the modus operandi in the US. The belief is that if the employment marketplace values parental leave, it will be offered without being compelled by government force. If parental leave is critical, find an employer willing to provide it (or better yet, make money independently; America makes this easy relative to Europe).

"It's a free country" and all that. One's employer has no more obligation to continue to employ him/her than the employee has obligation to continue to work for the employer.


How do companies in countries with six months or a year or two year of parental leave handle it?

At most places I've worked, they would not have been able to let my work go undone for six months or a year or more, so would need to find some other way to get the work done. At the large companies, there might be enough redundancy to be able to spread my work among those already working there. At many, though, it seems they would have to hire somebody.

For senior technical positions, especially if the company has proprietary systems or technology that is not publicly documented, it can take quite a while to get someone new up to speed.


How do parents in countries with less than six month to one year parental leave handle it?

Most kids I've brought up have been about a million times more intense than any tech career I've ever pursued.

And for the companies they work at, how do they manage retaining any half decent people while actively ignorning one of the most basic human processes? Ask any parent what the most transformative event in their life was. How do these companies survive with a staff that's essentialy kids or dysfunctional/depressed parents??

edit: serious question albeit framed provocatively.


They hire a replacement.

How do American companies cover a few weeks of leave? That's too short to hire a replacement but often too long to just let things slide.


Temporary hire or just avoiding the single point of failure.

It's part of the cost of doing business and companies plan for it.


Because a large enough portion of our society finds the technical details very unsavory and the system by which we run our society makes it difficult to do things without an overwhelming consensus (among people who care about the issue).


> I've never been able to understand how a parent could advocate against European-style healthcare goals

With respect to absurdly long paid parental leave in particular, I would oppose it on the grounds that it's immoral to force people to subsidize other people's children. Having children is a life choice that other people shouldn't be on the hook for.


That's an asinine argument, as a tax payer I'm "forced" to subsidise many things I don't personally benefit from. Ensuring that the next generation of society is well adjusted and participative seems as sensible an idea as public education and public healthcare.


More positively: - Population growth is slowing. - We need the subsequent generations to be well educated participants in a high tech knowledge economy. - If they are not there will be no one to pay for your retirement (current incomes pay for pensions, health subsidies, pay interest on investment debt, pay tolls on roads etc to keep the wheels going round). - Early childcare quality is very important in ensuring subsequent health and education performance.


> That's an asinine argument, as a tax payer I'm "forced" to subsidise many things I don't personally benefit from.

"There are other bad things, so you can't object to this new bad thing!"

> Ensuring that the next generation of society is well adjusted and participative

How does forcing companies to subsidize people's decision to have children achieve this goal?


> > That's an asinine argument, as a tax payer I'm "forced" to subsidise many things I don't personally benefit from.

> "There are other bad things, so you can't object to this new bad thing!"

The OP never said the things they did not benefit from were bad. Merely that as a tax payer, you pay for things that you personally do not always benefit from directly. You might think these are bad, but this is not the same as them being bad.

I do not personally benefit from having, say, wheelchair accessible housing requirements. This does not mean it is bad to have those requirements -- I simply do not use a wheelchair. This is only the simplest case imaginable. So your reply comes off as a bit of a farce, I think.

Your argument seems to hinge on premises like the fact there is a definitive moral/societal calculus by which we can determine if something is "good for us", so we should/should not do it (it's "immoral" to subsidize having children, but many would argue the same about providing birth control), that we should even treat it as a 'subsidy' vs 'investment' or 'just a good idea' (if we're "subsidizing" children, why even do it for 3 weeks? why not only give 3 days of parental leave?) or that there is a definitive, negative result to be the whole outcome, regardless of context (e.g. that extended parental leave is a definitive societal drain vs the value to be reaped in the same period). If it does not rely on these premises, I apologize, but that's what I read of it.

Skipping the bits about morals (you will not do well to convince people on that one) - is there any evidence to suggest that extended parental leave, as offered by EU countries (your quoted bit from the OP) for example, results in sustained economic or societal "subsidization" that has observable, long-lasting negative effects?


> but this is not the same as them being bad.

Well obviously, there is no such thing as "being bad" as an intrinsic quality. All "badness" or "goodness" is extrinsic, so it should have been fairly clear what I meant. ("This is bad" = "I think this is bad".)

> This is only the simplest case imaginable.

And in this case I disagree with you. I question whether or not legal accessibility requirements have been a good thing for society. As an example, I used to live in an old university building that was legally required to have a sort of wheelchair lift on some stairs to a commons room. The university had to pay close to $300,000 for that machine. In the two years I lived there, I do not believe the machine was used once. Was it really worth a good 35 years worth of in-state tuition scholarships to pay for a wheelchair lift that no one ever used?

> sustained economic or societal "subsidization" that has observable, long-lasting negative effects?

While it's impossible to isolate this policy as a causative factor, almost all European countries have drastically inferior GDPPC (adjusted for exchange rates and purchasing power) to the USA.

It's also not very hard to see how encouraging people to leave the workforce for months at a time would hurt productivity.


Having children is a life choice in a social context by definition. Along your lines of argumentation, someone could make absurd arguments like that when you retire you should not be allowed benefits paid for from the tax base you made the choice to not enhance. Or should you be allowed to employ or even work with people who were raised and educated at the expense of people who made the choice to do so? Paternity and Maternity leave is a drop in the ocean in subsidizing the expenses parents make or the benefits of their choice to society.


> when you retire you should not be allowed benefits paid for from the tax base you made the choice to not enhance.

While I'm having trouble parsing this sentence, I believe you're saying that we shouldn't give money to retirees because they're economically unproductive. I agree, except that most retirement programs (nominally) required retirees to put in money before they retired, so it's at least plausible to claim that they're owed that money, having already paid for it.

> Or should you be allowed to employ or even work with people who were raised and educated at the expense of people who made the choice to do so?

Not sure what you're saying here. As far as I'm concerned, employment should be a mutual agreement to trade labor for resources. Not sure how the way they were raised comes into it.

> Paternity and Maternity leave is a drop in the ocean in subsidizing the expenses parents make or the benefits of their choice to society.

While I disagree that people having children in general is good for society, let's leave that aside; we don't feel the need to have the government subsidize (or force companies to subsidize) every "good" behavior, like being nice or having a job. There is no need to subsidize people having children, because they will do it anyway. It's a lifestyle choice, not a public service.


What amount of your taxes goes to military? Do you consider killing people more noble job than raising them?


> What amount of your taxes goes to military?

Too much.

> Do you consider killing people more noble job than raising them?

False dichotomy. I'd rather subsidize neither.


> I've never been able to understand how a parent could advocate against European-style healthcare goals.

Sheesh, haven't you heard of the slippery slope?? Today it's six months of paternity leave, but from there it's a straight line to Stalinism. /s


And a little while after that you end up in a Gulag.


> I've never been able to understand how a parent could advocate against European-style healthcare goals

By the same token, I've never understood how parents could advocate against having a one-income family.

Oh wait, I know. Because everything has a cost, and everything is a trade-off.

The reason to not have a year-long leave is the same reason not to have a stay-at-home parent: it's expensive.

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Of course, some people do wind up making that compromise. But Americans don't expect everyone else pay for their decision. Thank God.


Ummm... there are some things which are just good for society. Having children is one of them. "Everyone else paying for it" is a reasonable thing, especially in this day and age when people don't want the hassle of having kids.

You're presenting an extremely selfish point of view.


You're the one wanting someone else to pay for your one/two income decision.

That sounds selfish to me.


Ummm... the way the world moves forward is through having children. What's your alternative?


Disruption the birth market via cloning! Join my start up!

jk

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More seriously though, I 100% like the decision to have children.

1. I'm a father of two. I work, and my wife stays home.

2. An alternative would be both of us working, except for my wife stops working for a while when our kids are born.

3. Another alternative would be both of us working, and paying for child care.

Each of these have trade-offs. But whatever way we go, I'm not selfish enough to force everyone to pay for my decision.




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